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Our world is built on averages. School and work have been built on the concept of fitting in . Teachers and employers ask "Show me how you're like everyone else (how you've successfully fit in), but still better than them (slightly better than average)." Our pursuit of being the same, only slightly better, has reduced our dreams to be slightly better than the people around us, rather than the best version of ourselves. Value individuality and value your strengths more than you value fitting in with the average. Thank you, TR .

Create a trigger in your life that builds your gratitude muscle. This could be: a 2-minute journal to end the day about what you are grateful for a sincere thank you a picture on your desk For MG , his trigger is this photo that hangs in his office. It's from a trip to Mali during their famine in 1984. Red Cross workers would measure children's arms. If too big, they did not receive the limited food ration b/c they could survive with no food. If too small, they did not receive the food ration b/c they would most likely die with or without the ration. Your arm had to be the "middle length" to get any of the rations. Be grateful for what you have. No matter the disappointment or supposed tribulation, do not whine or complain, do not get angry, do not last out atanotherperson to express your entitlement. You are not better than anyone else. Other people's (children's) terrible fate, undeserved and tragic, could have been your fate.

  Anger and embarrassment are often close relatives. Sometimes we get defensive about what we feel guilty about. Our brain and our ego tell us the "facts." Our heart and gut tell us the "feelings." Facts make us look good and minimize the feelings of how we've hurt the other person. Apologizing is hard to do well. It's scary so we avoid the pain of admitting we were wrong (or at least that we are partially responsible for the problem in the first place.) Everyone has a different version of how things went down and it gets really hard to sort out "facts" from "feelings." Stop the negative spiral downwards by: taking a deep breathe identifying what matters most (maintain this friendship etc) identifying what you authentically can say "I'm sorry" for do it. Say "I'm sorry" do not say "but", do not explain why you are still in the right after you say "sorry" Thank you AP .