Don't Tolerate Disrespect

  Boundaries teach others

"The only people who get upset about you setting boundaries are the ones who benefited from you having none." - Unknown

Last week, I let a comment slide too long.

Small erosion.

Respect isn’t automatic.

It’s maintained.

This week, try addressing misalignment early.

Calm.
 Direct.

Boundaries protect both sides.

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