Balance autonomy with no guilt

Autonomy means doing what you believe is best because you think that is what needs to happen. Autonomy does not mean doing what you think others want you to do.

Too often, we add meaning by personalizing someone else’s action. “That person doesn’t drink alcohol because they think they are better than I.” Or“my co-worker is staying late in the office, hmmm, I guess I have to stay late too if I want to be viewed as a team player.” These are false stories that most often serve no one. 99% + of the time, the action of person A has no causation or relation to the action of person B.

Remember, you are one of 7.6 billion people on this planet right now. Or one of about the 108.2 billion people in the history of Earth that have ever been lucky enough to live on this planet.

The actions of others do not define what the best action for you is.

Identify your best path forward. And then follow it. Do not be unnecessarily swayed by the actions of others. The crowd misleads you. There is no guilt, no shame in taking your own path.

The world needs you to focus & dig into your zone of genius. Keep marching to the beat of your own drum. Keep going.












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